Happiness is neither virtue nor pleasure nor this thing nor that, but simply growth. We are happy when we are growing. William Butler Yeats

Journal prompt:  What’s helping you grow?  In what areas do you want more growth?

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OWN IT!

 

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Recently on a podcast about the Enneagram, I heard an acronym for OWN UP.  After it sticking with me for a few days I thought about how my clients could use something similar for the things we talk a lot about:  gaining awareness of our feelings, and “riding them out” until the intense emotions morph into something more bearable.  So perhaps this can be a helpful reminder:

OWN IT!

Observe–  What are you noticing- feelings, thoughts in your mind, and sensations in your body?

Welcome–  Welcome the feelings, however uncomfortable.  Don’t waste energy trying to change them or outrun them or you’ll miss the opportunity to learn from them and to let them evolve!

Name–  Name the feelings;  put words to the thoughts and to the what you’re experiencing in your body.

Investigate–  Where’s this coming from?  Can you identify a trigger?

Tolerate–  The feelings won’t kill you!  Let them come like a wave-  grab your surfboard and ride it out, using the tools that you’ve picked up.  Breathe through it.  We know that feelings will change (they have to!), so give it a little time and see what fruits can come from staying with your feelings.

OWN IT-  and it won’t own you!

The quality of life is in proportion always to the capacity for delight. The capacity for delight is the gift of paying attention. Julia Cameron

Journal prompt:  What is getting in the way of you paying attention in your life?  What’s one thing that you can do to pay more attention today?

Permission Slips

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I’ve become a big believer in the power of a permission slip.  The idea that I decide what I will be permitted to do, and you decide what you will be permitted to do in your life, whether that’s permission to take care of yourself, permission to rest, permission to put up a boundary around a difficult or unsafe situation, etc.  The pic above is how I’m practicing what I preach today!

Journal prompt:  What do you need to give yourself permission for today?  Write it out, sign up, and put it up somewhere as a reminder!

Stepping Into the Arena!

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I’m so proud of these courageous folks who joined me on an unforgettable journey. Our Daring Way and Rising Strong group came to an end this week, but I know these brave folks are just getting started! Grateful, humbled, and inspired by our time together

If you want to be a part of the next group, I’d love to talk with you about it!

Upcoming Groups!

I’m excited to offer 3 upcoming groups-  2 for The Daring Way™ and 1 for Rising Strong™.   Space is limited to 8 group members, so signup today to secure your spot!

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Bookshelf Additions – Spring 2018

 

 

Women Food and God, Geneen Roth

A wonderful read, describing the intertwining, often complicated relationships that women have with food and God.

The Wisdom of Sundays, Oprah Winfrey

I plan to keep this book of bite-sized inspirational stories and conversations on my coffee table.

The Girl with the Lower Back Tattoo, Amy Schumer

I picked this one up just for fun, but I was surprised to find myself moved by her tenderness and poignant stories about her loved ones.  I’m a fan of her authenticity and courage.

Younger, Sara Gottfried, M.D.

I had many take-aways from this health-related book, included a renewed commitment to Yoga, green tea, nuts, and time in the sauna.  I’m also inspired to branch out to try oil pulling, bone broth, turmeric, kimchi & kimbucha, and collagen protein.

The Highly Sensitive Child, Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D.

I picked up this book with a particular child in mind, but my thoughts expanded to many more as I learned about this trait that impacts roughly 20% of the population.  Thought-provoking, and I want to learn more.  The Highly Sensitive Person is next on my reading list.

Bookshelf Additions – Winter 2017

 

The Little Book of Hygge, Meik Wiking

I recently heard of the concept of hygge- and my friend who is living in The Hague sent me this book that is subtitled “Danish Secrets to Happy Living.”  I love this concept (a special kind of coziness), especially this time of year when I tend to find myself in a bit of slump.  I’ve been relentlessly pursuing coziness this winter and it’s been just lovely.  I plan to pull this book back at the first sign of cold weather to get a jump start on hygge 2018 😊

Of Mess and Moxie, Wrangling Delight out of this Wild and Glorious Life, Jen Hatmaker

A wonderful book, especially for women- perhaps around my age.  It’s authentic and relatable, both comforting and inspirational.  And there’s a great recipe for Panang Curry (my favorite!)

I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings, Maya Angelou

I had a client who recently read this book and I wanted to refresh myself so I could understand her references.  I must have read this years ago, before I was mature enough to “get” it—  a good read, I SO admire Maya Angelou and love to hear anything written or spoken by her.

The Mask of Masculinity, Lewis Howes

Lewis openly discusses several masks that he, and other males, tend to wear:  the Stoic mask, Athlete mask, Material mask, Sexual mask, Aggressive mask, Joker mask, Invincible mask, Know-it-all mask, and Alpha mask.   I like how in many ways this book parallels the work of Brené Brown and makes it accessible to some men who otherwise might not resonate with the message.

Becoming Myself, Irvin Yalom

Yalom has become a go-to for me whenever I find myself feeling overwhelmed or uninspired…and he has yet to disappoint.  Always thankful for his books that live on my shelves.